10 times to hold your tongue.  It’s nearly always best to remain silent in the following situations:

1.  When you’re tempted to say, “I told you so.”

2. When you’re criticized.  A response may be called for, but it is usually best not to give it in the heat of the moment.

3. When you have information that makes someone look bad.

4.  When someone is upset about a problem and you’ve had a similar experience.  Relate what you went through only if your objective is to pass on something you learned – be sure you’re not shifting the focus to yourself.

5.  When you’re tempted to judge or criticize someone.

6. When a friend’s situation would make a great point in the conversation, but you don’t have permission to share with others.  Even if you don’t use names, you’re treading on dangerous ground.

7. When you’re tempted to correct someone on a minor point as they relate a story or experience.

8. When you think someone made a poor decision, but it’s too late for them to change their mind.  Also be silent when people haven’t asked your opinion on what they should do.

9. When you’re tempted to tell something about yourself for the purpose of impressing someone.

10. When you have information that might discourage someone.  Don’t tell labor horror stories to a woman who’s pregnant for the first time, and don’t mention someone you know who died from the disease your friend’s family member just contracted.

 - Susan Maycinik –

Stephen Ministers have received over 50 hours of training in listening.   They offer confidential, nonjudgmental support for those going through troubling times. 

If you or someone you know would like a Stephen Minister, please call Anita J. or talk to Pastor Dave.
 

A Surprise Gift - Forgiveness.  In the Gospel of John, Jesus appeared to his disciples after his resurrection and gave them the gift of the Holy Spirit, saying “if you forgive the sins of any, they are forgiven them;  if you retain the sins of any, they are retained” (John 20:23). 

Jesus has given us a heavy but wonderful responsibility:  We are to bring his gift of forgiveness to the world.  We need to freely offer God’s, and our own forgiveness to anyone desiring it – once that person has had the opportunity for self-examination and growth - regardless of our personal feelings.  When we do so, we radiate God’s forgiveness into all the corners of our world. 

Forgiveness is one of the only forms of freedom that any person can give to another, while at the same time, returning freedom to his own life.